Being a twenty two year old Women in 2019 is very different than when my Grandmother’s were my age. My Grandmother’s faced restrictions that I thankfully do not have to face today. I’m not going to say that I’ve never experienced discrimination because I’m a woman, I have, but still never like the Women before me. Today I attend college in a huge lecture hall filled with both men & women. I have women in my life who are doctor’s, lawyers, accountants, teacher’s, real estate agents etc. I have women in my life who have started their own companies and paved a successful road for themselves and other women. I have women who use their creativity to help their team at work get ahead. You look everywhere and Women aren’t just in the house cooking, cleaning and childrearing. We do that and so much more. We’re like the professional jugglers the world never knew it needed. We know where everyone’s things are, even when we can’t find our own keys or wallets. We take into consideration allergies, doctor appointments, people’s fears, people’s struggles. We often, carry what seems like the entire world on our shoulders. The most amazing thing is that unless you’re living with us you’d never know that we feel the pressure with every cell in our body. You wouldn’t understand the sigh of relief when your body finally sinks into your bed after a long day at school/work, cooking, cleaning, putting clothes away, picking up countless of socks, & spending time with your loved one’s when they need you. You body relaxes and possibly sleeps but your mind never shuts off, because you’re a women. You wonder if your friend ever figured their issue out. Are your parents okay? Is your dog happy? How can you help reduce your spouses stress? Did you shut the oven off? Are my contacts out? Crap! I forgot to get an oil change… again! Will the car go up in flames if I forget again? I hope that old friend from HS is happy with their life. Whats the safest place to hide if a war breaks out? If the gas in my car locks & I keep accelerating what do I do to safely stop the vehicle before I crash? I have a headache… Am I healthy? Did I even drink water today? Can you stop thinking so I can just sleep?
There are many meme’s out there today which depict how Men never understand Women. Men are from mars & Women are from venus. Well, considering how jumbled up and organized our brains are all at once, can you blame them?
I’d like to give a huge thank you to the Women in my life. To the Women who make up my inner circle of family & close friends, thank you. Without your insight, advice, cheering me on, & picking me up when I had no more strength THANK YOU. I wouldn’t be who I am today, without you. To the Women in my professional life, the women I collaborate with, the Women who are in the blogging community, to the women who support my blog & page, THANK YOU. My voice wouldn’t be heard if you weren’t listening. I wouldn't have a constant source of inspiration without all of you. I wouldn’t have the connections I do today if you all weren’t open to me. THANK YOU. To the countless of female teachers I had throughout my life, thank you for the inspiration. Thank you for building me up when school was hard. Thank you for encouraging me, and convincing me that I am smart & can do it if I try. A special thank you goes out to the Women who are no longer with us today. You all fought and paved a path for us with endless possibilites. You taught us not to settle. You told us there are no such thing as a closed door, you kick that door in and walk through if you want it bad enough. Thank you for raising us and for being the strength behind us when we feel its all too much. Thank you for giving us a name to honor.
There are many women throughout history who have made history because of their courage to stand up for themselves & for us. They are always the inspiration that drives me. Each of these women I have mentions fueled me with the power to speak up and speak loud. To the Women younger than me, I hope chasing your dreams is even easier than it is for myself. I hope you never feel slighted because you are a women. I hope that you don’t feel afraid to stand firm against the tide. I hope you chase your dreams until they become your reality.
Happy International Women’s day to the women from the past, the present & the Women of the future.
Always, Rachel Safer